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Breaking the most solemn vow – the consequences of divorce in the life of the family

  • April 24, 2017

I would depict for you in a few words the sad picture of the family split caused by divorce that takes place so often nowadays.

What is divorce? The divorce is the consequence of a family life lived in misunderstanding because of some sinful inclinations or passions. The divorce is the breaking of a vow, is the breaking of the most solemn vow of faith, that splits a family. The divorce is the greatest enemy of the family, is the deathblow that can be given to the family life.

The unity and the indestructibility of the marriage has its beginning in the creation of the woman from Adam’s rib: Eve, bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh (Genesis 2,23) The divorce for those who were  religiously wed is as unnatural as the separation of the bones from flesh, this meaning death and divorce is a spiritual death itself.

The sacrament of the Holy Matrimony is founded on the base of a vow willingly made before the holy altar, thus it is a spiritual communion made with the knowledge and will of God, who sends the grace of blessing over the new family. The Savior says: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh.Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.(Matthew 19, 5-6) Therefore the divorce is against the will of God, because it breaks what God has united.

What consequences has the divorce for the children? These become some unhappy victims of the sinfulness of their parents, some unfortunate innocent beings.  Their hearts are broken in two because if the court entrusts them to their mother the authority of their father cannot be replaced by anyone and if they are entrusted to their father, the children will miss the tender love of their mother. Therefore the children are doomed to know no true paternal love only the envious malice of a stepmother or stepfather and many times they become even more pained than the orphans.

 (Archimandrite Serafim Man, Brief preaching from the pulpit of Rohia, The publishing house of the Orthodox Episcopate of  Maramureş and Sătmar, 1996, p. 160).

Source: altarulcredintei.md